And surely not in the pehli nazar… It’s been more than a year since I knew this wonderful person Mr.K; a year since we got engaged; and above all it’s been six months of our nuptial. Ok, as I was surprisingly idle at home and was flipping thro our wedding album for the N th time, I was jus re-living those moments.
The 13th of Jan 2008 was the usual lazing Sunday morning until I received a call from this prospective to-be groom. He’d wanted to meet me in person before we could actually get into the proposal. And amidst lot of anxiety, I was getting prepared to meet a guy whom I’d never ever thought of his existence before. And there my mom was all over her heels and she was actually even more hyped than I could be and was giving away her thoughtful tips to me as though she was preparing me for the board exams. I personally was emotion-less!! As I really didn’t know how and what to react, probably I was cursing this entire system of arranged marriages. I didn’t have an ounce of clue of what exactly was it going to happen there or the least what should I really talk to this guy. With an unclear vision and mindful of thoughts I stepped into that meeting place with a delay of fifteen minutes against our scheduled time. And yeah, there THE GUY was,
We’d a small introduction and I spoke fewer words and then there yours truly jus got back to her shell and the Guy did the entire talking. We spoke about a lot of things and finally the Guy wound the discussion by saying; “ See, Iam very slow in deciding things and probably will take some time to decide on the same.. till then I think we can be friends:. And that was the signing off message from the guy. (Oh God!! What’s really happening around me!! I’d been to meet this guy who was supposedly the prospective groom to be but then here’s the guy informing that till he decides on things he wants jus to FRIENDS… Can imagine the kind of bewilderment I could have gone thro’) .. Ok I’d to come and announce my already apprehensive Mom regarding this meet.. And as guessed I gave her an even more baffled reply of our decision.. as I’d to put a big full stop to her never-ending questions .. After a day or two of this, I again received a message from the Guy saying he would like to meet me regarding his decision and finally we met and guess what!!! The guy declared his interest on proceeding with the proposal.. and guess what would have been the reply from yours truly… A Week’s time for me to decide….;-) well that was really not a vengeful act but I really wanted time to think as I’d not thought about the entire thing for the two days.. I didn’t want to.. Because I was really not sure of what the outcome of that meeting would be.. So I jus didn’t want to be an early bird and decide on things , if every thing turned the other way round( yeah I know I was lil pessimistic about that) But now, I’d to think about lot of things but my main concern was supporting my parents and my sponsor child… because to an extent both would be a life long commitment.. so whoever accepts me should accept for this even… But then again he crux of this situation was like if I don’t again sit and talk with him .. I might know what exactly runs thro’ his mind… so , again I called him and spoke my mind and wanted his thoughts on this.. And to my surprise.. he readily accepted it and was like “so what?? Jus like am supporting my family you could even.. so I don’t think this should be an issue…”
Even after this will yours truly delay the proceedings…J NEVER!! And so finally we gave the final go-ahead to our respective families… Yes, all this while the families were never in the picture and it was purely OUR decision to go ahead…
And then………
To Be Continued….
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